Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Elf on The Shelf & Advent Calendar ideas

This is our first year doing Elf on The Shelf so I've made a list of ideas I've come up with from browsing Pinterest. These are in no particular order, besides the first and last day.
1.Arrival- Hanging out in the advent calendar with a candy cane
2.T.P. the Christmas tree
3.Sugar snow angel
4.drinking syrup with a barbie
5.hanging from ceiling fan
6.fishing for gold fish
7.taking barbie for a ride in the barbie car
8.using a sock as a sleeping back in drawer
9.having a bowl of cereal
10.using a T.P. roll as a swing
11.Decorate kitchen with sticky gift bows
12.coloring a page in coloring book
13.making a can mountain by pantry
14.having a tea party
15.doing a slam dunk in the basketball goal
16.reading christmas books
17.has a cold, surrounded by tissues,halls,medicine
18.working out with marshmallow dumbbells
19.hanging out in jewelry box wearing jewelry
20.hiding in the fridge eating red jello
21.hanging out in Christmas village
22.sitting in chair playing xbox
23.building a house out of blocks
24.marshmallow bath
25.bag of elf kisses and note saying goodbye


We're also doing an advent calendar, I got a big stocking one at wal mart for $17 but you can make your own , or even check out target, I saw several different ones for $3 . These are also in no particular order, I'll put them in order when I figure out our schedule.
1. make hot cocoa and read first Christmas book
2.decorate gingerbread house
3.watch a christmas movie
4.go look at christmas lights
5.make candy cane pom pom ornament
6.make gingerbread cookies
7.Christmas at stockyards
8.go see Frozen
9.deocorate paper Christmas tree
10.go ice skating
11.pick out toys to donate
12.make paper snowflakes
13.make christmas sundae
14.write Santa a letter and mail it to the north pole
15.make jingle bell bracelet
16.make grandparents oven mit gift
17.Check out Christmas books and movies at Library
18.Dance party-jam out to some christmas music
19.Christmas movie and popcorn
20.yesterland farm
21.color Christmas pages
22.Breakfast for dinner
23.Go on the train ride at the park
24.open Christmas eve gift

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

October Advent

I'd seen Advent calendars on pinterest, most are for Christmas but then I found some for Halloween. I thought this was a great idea! I love Fall and I'm so ready for all the fun things it brings. So I started working on the list of activities,crafts and baking we'll be doing.
We'll be gone til the 6th of October visiting family in Oklahoma so ours will only be 25 days.

1. Decorate the house for Halloween
2.Craft- Egg carton bat
3.Food- Mummy Hot dogs
4.Activity- Pumpkin Bowling(use the pumpkin as a bowling ball and pins can either be "ghosts"aka toilet paper rolls or cans you paint to be monsters)
5.Craft- Paper bag scarecrow
6.Activity- Fall Scavenger Hunt
7.StawBooooRies
8.Spider Hands
9.Ghost Hunt
10.Halloween wreath
11.Cottonball Ghost
12.Mummy Wrap(wrap them up like a mummy!!!)
13. Pumpkin patch/decorate pumpkins
14. make Halloween cookies
15.Checkout halloween books at library
16.watch Halloween movies
17.Pumpking potato stamp
18.Make a monster
19. Boo at the Zoo(halloween theme day at local zoo)
20.Yesterland Farm
21.Ghost Feet
22.Fall picnic at the park
23.Make trick or treat bag(get a cheap tote bag and decorate!)
24. Make Treat hands to give out on HalloweenTreat hands
25. Go Trick or Treating!

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

There's Always Tomorrow.

Today I woke up with a list of things I wanted to get done, like finish my last load of laundry, start washing all the bed sheets, organize Audrey's clothes, clean out my fridge and scrub my microwave.
Now ask me how many of those things I got done?
ZERO.
Audrey has recently starting saying "mom play" and it's hard to resist her. Audrey begged me to play puzzles with her, then wanted to read books, then we colored with markers for the first time, she of course marked all over herself. Then she wanted to play outside and we played with chalk and I decided it would be the perfect time to do the hand print flower pot gift for her great grandma, however this did not work out as planned, she wouldn't put her hand flat so the print came out as a glob, I decided to give her a Popsicle stick since we had no paint brushes and just let her have at it. She picked me flowers and then played in the dirt, got dirty from head to toe, chalk, paint, markers and dirt just all over her. Of course next I gave her a bath, I filled it up with extra toys and even put some bubbles in which I usually don't do since getting her OUT of the bath is already hard and she refuses to get out when the water is gone but the bubbles stay, but I knew she would love it so in the bubbles went. Most of the time baths are quick , in, scrub down and back out but tonight I let her play longer and just enjoy a nice bath.
After bath time I thought I would put on some cartoons for her and make the cabbage casserole I had planned, but once again Audrey had other plans, She wanted to play "Mouse" as she calls it, ABCMouse.com which is an online place for kids with lessons, puzzles and games and since she doesn't know to move a mouse, especially on a laptop I have to sit with her and move the mouse, she loves to playing and I love seeing her laugh and name animals and numbers . By the time I realized I had never started dinner I didn't feel like cooking much so I just made a turkey burger patty and broccoli . After Dinner Audrey was getting pretty cranky and I knew she needed a nap, but she wanted to lay on me watching a "vie" as she calls her movies, and well once she was asleep I just didn't have the heart to move her . So I layed there watching Word World for what was probably the 200th time, and I realized I hadn't gotten a single thing done today, then I looked at my sleeping little girl and smiled to myself and thought, no I got plenty done today, I spent the entire day with my daughter and while yes I spend everyday with my daughter being a stay at home mom, I don't always spend all of my TIME with her, She'll only be 2 for a little while, much too soon she won't beg me to play with her , to read her stories, or fall asleep on my chest.
So no I didn't do much housework today but I did my job as a mother, Audrey won't remember if I kept up with the laundry or if I made a big home cooked meal every night but she will remember all the time I spend WITH her, she will remember the times I read to her, she will remember the days we spend getting dirty in the backyard and the time I spend helping her learn and at the end of the day what else matters really? I don't think any mother looks back and says "I wish I would have done more laundry" because I could have forever to spend with Audrey and that would still not be enough, so why waste the few precious years I have, because there is always tomorrow to do everything else.

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Coupons

I've had a couple people ask me how I coupon, so I figured I'd make a post with today's run, not my best one but oh well! So first I always get two papers, I keep my stash built up because most coupons last a month, sometimes two. The key to coupons is to match the coupons with the sales and have a plan, don't just go in and look for stuff and hope you have a matching coupon. I make a list and know pretty much what I'll spend.
Mostly I shop and use my coupons a Walgreens, CVS and Albertsons.
Okay, so Here is my CVS Trip.
GM Cereal 2/5$- I had a coupon for 1$ off
Dawn dish soap-Regular 1.60 on sale for .99
Colgate Max White Toothpaste -Regular 3.79 on sale for 3.00 + in store coupon for $2 off
Purex Detergent was Buy One Get One Free-5.99 for 2
I also bought a photo frame for a dollar, a birthday card for 3.50(this was something I cringed at when I looked at my receipt, I would normally never pay that much for a card!) and a 10 pack of sponges for $1
I also had a 20% off purchase thanks to my rewards card savings from a previous purchase which came out to 5.80 off.
I paid $13.15
Total savings in all was 21.42!

Getting into it is really easy, it's so fun and addicting!
Just remember to not buy things you don't need, want or normally would never buy just because you have a coupon for it!
I'm in no way an expert and I've only been doing it a few months, and I'm not an extreme coupon lady, just wanted to give some pointers!

Thursday, April 11, 2013

It's been one of those days

As a mom we all have those days where we just wanna lock ourselves in the closet and pretend not to hear the kids right?
Today was one of THOSE days
Audrey woke up cranky, we were out of milk and had zero motivation to get dressed and put makeup on to go to the store so we had dry cereal for breakfast.. which she of course dumped ALL OVER THE PLACE, and can't forget to smash some in the floor and my bedroom happens to be only 1 of 2 rooms in the entire house with carpet.
She basically cried over every little thing today, she couldn't open the cabinet door, which completely constitutes a melt down of epic proportion, tomatoes for lunch? sure why not!
I felt like crap today and all I wanted to do was nurse my headache and nausea and watch bad tv.
Audrey had other plans for me, after I picked up the living room for the third time today she brings just about every toy she owns and begins throwing them at me. Dinner was mac n cheese because momma had no patience or energy to cook a real meal and since I'm trying to make her use utensils more she had a serious freak out over not being able to get the noodles from the spoon into her mouth without dropping them on herself, and when I say freak out I mean " lets scream then hold our breath til we almost pass out and make mommy have a heart attack then lay on the floor thrashing until I get what I want" type freak out. Today was just not a good day at our house.
But we all have these days right? Those days where we think "my god if I could just have a moment of silence" because lets face it, you can only hear "Mom! Mom! Mom!" " WHAT?" " NOSE!" so many times in a day before you wanna pull your hair out.
That takes me back to when I couldn't wait for her to talk and now I just wish she'd be quiet for 10 minutes.
Now don't get me wrong, I have an awesome kid, 90% of the time she's pretty well behaved, but she's a child and they will eventually drive us all to the loony bin.
And you know what I hate, when I read those tear jerking super sad stories about babies dying on facebook and I cry so hard and think " you should feel so ashamed of yourself, here you are acting annoyed with your precious baby and these parents don't even have their baby to hold!"
Yes, I get annoyed, frustrated and overwhelmed with being a mother sometimes, but not even for a single second do I take it for granted, I love my little girl more than life itself and I would not trade a single day with her for any amount of time of any other life.
But I'm not perfect, and neither is she and we will have our bad days and I will send her to bed early and I will have a glass of wine because tomorrow is another day and much too soon she will be grown up and I will miss her yelling and screaming and stepping on toys and all the messes she makes.

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Potty Training Update!

I totally meant to do an Easter post with all the things we did, but I forgot and well now it's too late.
so I decided I would give an update on Potty Training!
I had started for the third time and it just wasn't working, she was just refusing to do it so I gave up and decided I would just wait until summer to try again, when to my surprise a week after I gave up she decided she was done with diapers and did it herself! She loves going to the potty and wearing panties and even hates wearing a diaper at bedtime, She's terrified of the big potty so we haven't been able to use that yet, or a public restroom but hopefully soon! She's only had one accident in three weeks and that was because she was playing outside and just forgot. We used a sticker reward chart, which she LOVED and was so excited to be pick out the stickers. Sometimes she would try to trick me though, tell me she had to pee just to sit on the potty and then try to get a sticker. I'm so proud of her! After all the frustration I had trying to do it before she was ready was pointless because I just had to let her be in charge and do it when she wanted to do it.
She's really growing up, and as happy(Ecstatic) as I am to be done with diapers for the most part, it's bittersweet because that's just one more "baby" thing we're done with.
Also she is saying new words every day, last month she said 32 new words! Her talking has really exploded and she's now trying to say full sentences, even though I can't always understand exactly what she's saying.
2 is really starting out to be a fun age, hopefully we skip being "terrible" .

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Sesame Street Party!

We survived the Oklahoma trip! Audrey had a blast at her birthday party and all my months of planning paid off! The cake was amazing! It looked so cute and tasted super yummy. Almost everyone I invited was able to come, so we had a full house filled with good friends and lots of happy children. Here are some Photos!(they aren't great because I forgot to pack my memory card, and DH is not good with the focus on his phone)
I got these letters and numbers at Hobby Lobby and just spray painted them and then added the fuzzy little ball things with regular glue to the number 2

Elmo had "goldfish" and Cookie Monster of course was guarding the cookies.I had also planned a bubble bath punch with rubber duckies with Ernie.. but I messed it up and it turned out red! I got the adorable paper flower banner for 1.50 at Wal mart!

This adorable (and very yummy)cake was made by Takes The Cake By Brooke I picked up the cupcakes at wal mart for the smaller kids.
This was a lot bigger than I thought it would be, luckily though it came with like three of every number for the sign so I used the extras on the walls around the rooms!

Everyone wanted a photo in front of Sesame Street!

My awesome friend Melissa made this! Audrey loves it and it was a big hit at the party as well.

The Party Princess!

I'm adding these last two from her birthday shoot earlier last month so you can see her birthday shirt better.

Audrey's adorable shirt was made by Nancy at Little Bow Dazzle I get all of Audrey's custom shirts done by her

Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Spread the Word to End the Word

Just wanted to share some links today Lovethatmax ENDTHEWORD Retard is not an acceptable word. Read up on it and change your way of thinking and talking!

Thursday, February 28, 2013

All About Audrey!

Today my baby girl is 2 years old! It seems like yesterday I was in the hospital waiting to see her beautiful face. At 2:20 pm she came into this world and has totally changed my life ever since! I love her more than anything else in the entire world, she is my amazing princess.

Audrey is goofy and smart, impatient and sensitive, she has a big personality and loves meeting new people. She Loves bubbles and playing basketball with her daddy
She loves to color and her favorite show is Dora the Explorer
She likes to jump and ride on her bike
She likes playing dress up and taking care of her baby dolls
She can almost say and recognize all the letters in the alphabet
She likes to build tings with her blocks and thinks it's funny when she knocks everything down again
Her favorite foods are bananas, apple sauce, chicken nuggets and mac n cheese.
She loves wearing tutus and would pick to wear her boots over anything else
She loves Balloons, which she calls Boons
She likes to act goofy and make mommy laugh
Her favorite animals are frogs, ducks and dogs
She likes running around outside and cuddling with mommy watching cartoons
She loves bathtime and playing with her rubber duckies
She can capture the heart of anyone she meets, and is sweet as can be

I am so lucky to have such a terrific kid, she learns something new everyday and is so much fun to play with, she gets her stubbornness from me, also her lack of patience, but she's also funny and sweet and so loving. She changed my life in so many ways, more than I could have thought. She taught me unconditional love, she's taught me to be more calm, to be patient, to cherish all the little moments in life, to celebrate life, to plan for the future.
I hope someday she knows how much I love her, that my love for her runs deeper than anything else in the world. I really had no idea what it meant to be a mother, not a single clue and I was terrified I would do it all wrong, I hope she knows I'm doing my best to be the best mom in the world to her, that she is my reason for waking up each day.
I Love you beyond measure Audrey Elise!

Thursday, February 21, 2013

One Week

This time next week I will be the mother of a 2 year old!
I've said this before, but seriously, it just seems crazy to me that Audrey is going to be 2. Where has the time gone? I just read her birth announcement post from my old blog and that doesn't feel like 2 years ago. I really had no idea how much she would change my life. She is so amazing, she learns new words everyday, and is so goofy and funny. I feel so lucky to be her mom, she is such an awesome kid.
It's hard to believe she was ever small enough to hold in my arms, She's 30lbs now and only cuddles with me for a few minutes at a time anymore, she is always on the go. She has a big personality and as hard headed and short tempered as I am(though we're both working on this lol) I know someday I won't be the center of her world, but for a few more years I get to be. She truly means everything to me, I hope someday she can really understand how much I lover her. Be prepared for another sappy and probably long post on her actual Birthday!

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Potty Training

My baby is growing up and it's potty training time!
I have tried twice before with epic failure, the last time Audrey actually regressed all her potty progress, when they aren't ready they just aren't ready.
Lately Audrey has started telling me when she needs a diaper change, she says "pee" or "poop" so yesterday I started what will be (hopefully) be my last try. She wore panties and I told her all about her sticker chart, if she went potty IN the potty she would get a sticker. She seemed pretty excited about this, especially since she went sticker crazy making her Valentine the other day. She did really good for a few hours, she did have me running to the bathroom a lot, when she would say "Mom Pee" . After about 2 hrs of her not actually peeing she crossed her legs and whined and I ran her to the potty and she finally pee'd in the potty! I was so proud! I let her put a sticker on her chart and she loved it.
She had an accident soon afterwards, but really it was because she fell and was crying hysterically, I got most of it all over me. We are still doing diapers at night because she still goes a lot during the night and until she starts staying dry through the night I know it would be pointless to try. We aren't doing pullups because to Audrey they are exactly like diapers, she would even bring me a pullup when I asked for a diaper. I may have to buy some more underwear though, I only bought one pack and we're on the fourth pair in the two days.
I'm really hoping she is mostly trained by the time her brother and sister come for the summer, I know I won't be able to give her my full 100% attention then and It may be more stressful for everyone if we try during that time.
I will update on how this is going in a few days, hopefully it will be with some good results!

Sunday, February 10, 2013

Valentines Day

That romantic sweetheart day is this week, however being a roughneck wife as often happens, my husband will be gone on this holiday. However, just like all the other holidays we celebrated early.
We went out for dinner last night at the Black Eyed Pea, which by the way has the BEST cornbread, like EVER.
After dinner and picking up Audrey we came home and watched Battleship and had a beer while just relaxing on the couch, doesn't sound fancy but when you're apart half the time, any time together is wonderful.
Usually my husband doesn't go out and get me things without my nagging him, and even then he always takes me with him and let's me pick whatever out, but I was pleasantly surprised when he came home from the store with a heart box of chocolates for me!
I don't really care what he gets me, I just love knowing that he thought of me.
For him I had made a "heart attack" box I wrote 50 things I loved about him and put them in a box. We aren't fancy people and we don't do extravagant things, but it's the little things that show the other how much we care

On actual Valentines Day I will do some crafts with Audrey, she has a cute outfit to wear and we're gonna have a mommy and daughter date. We're gonna go to a indoor playground and maybe go get an ice cream after and watch all the valentines day cartoons. Here is my Valentines Day board on Pinterest for some ideas. Valentines day

Thursday, February 7, 2013

What's for Dinner?

I research and create a menu plan for each week, thank you Pinterest. I often come across these sits that have like " one month of meals for 100$" or something like that and I'm like "ohh yes! anyway to save!" however 99% percent of the time.. they actually only cook one meal a day,Dinner(or Supper as some call it) most families have older kids who go to school or the parents work so they aren't home to eat 3 meals a day . But in our house, we do eat three meals a day and especially when my husband is home I have to cook REAL, full meals, not like a sandwhich and a small side of mac n cheese.
Also Audrey doesn't eat what we eat, I know some parents say if you don't give them a choice they'll eat it, however Audrey is stubborn like me and if you don't give her what she wants, she just won't eat and I'd much rather her have chicken noodle soup everyday than eat nothing, she doesn't like candy or cookies but does like tomatoes and peas so I really can't complain too much.
Anyway what I'm saying is, I have to plan for at least two big meals a day while Justin is home. I can get away with eating soup or leftovers for a few days when he's gone, but my budgeting really has to be smart when grocery shopping. I used to spend about 120$(it used to be more before I discovered meal planning) for a week and half worth of food(this also included soap, toilet paper, household items) but I really felt like that was just too much. I just can't get into coupons, and price matching just takes more time time than I've got. Luckily there is an Aldi store right by my house, and boy do I love that store now. Seriously, 90% of the stuff is at least 20-30% cheaper than Wal mart. I can't always find everything on my list there, but I rarely have to get more than 3 or 4 things somewhere else. I've gotten bread for .39 cents! How can you beat that?!

I also have found that since it's just a grocery store I'm not tempted to buy things I don't need , I have no clothes or toys or makeup aisle to wander to and find something I have to have(not)
I can spend 60-70$ at Aldi for the exact same meals I was buying before.
Now, not ALL things are cheaper, like TP is like 1.47 or something like that, at Wal-mart I can get it for 1$, and being that the Walmart is two parking lots over from Aldi, it's not out of my way to save a few more cents if I have to go there anyway like for shampoo or diapers.
However I will spend the extra cents on TP to avoid wal mart if I can, like I said ,temptation!
So Whats For Dinner This Week? Here is my menu list for Friday til Tuesday when Justin leaves and I do a different type meals for myself.

Friday
Lunch-Hamburgers and fries
Dinner-Chicken Spaghetti(a 7$ bag of chicken breasts at aldi can make me 3 different meals)

Saturday
Lunch- Tacos and rice
Dinner-Date night(eating out)
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Sunday
Lunch- Hot Wings and Fries
Dinner-pork chops, mashed potatoes and homemade mac n cheese

Monday
Lunch- Pizza
Dinner-Pancakes and eggs with meat( I've got syrup and eggs I need to use up)

Tuesday
Lunch-homemade soup
When Justin goes to work, he also has to buy groceries so I try to be extra cheap, two separate grocery bills can be expensive. I'll post an example of that before I go shopping again, which will be either Monday or Tuesday.

Sunday, February 3, 2013

Happy Belated and Life.

Friday was my dads birthday, he would have been 63. I didn't even realize it until yesterday, I completely missed it, I felt awful because I remember his death but forgot his birth, felt like I didn't celebrate his life.
Not much else has been going on, I've been really working on being a better housewife, considering I had no idea 5 years ago how to cook anything outside of a microwave or wash a load of clothes, I have come a long way.
Audrey's birthday is coming up on the 28th.I am excited to give her presents to her, she is getting a outside playhouse for the yard and two necklaces, once is a princess crown and the other is pearl. She is such a girly girl and I love it. People really aren't kidding when they say time flies when you have kids, she is miss sassy pants and I can't imagine life without her and it seems crazy to me that I will have a TWO year old. Just insane.We just made her crib into a toddler bed, made it even more real that she's no longer a baby.
Also now that she is getting older everyone has started asking me, when we'll have another, I wish I knew that answer, but at this point my husband just doesn't see us having another child, but I do. It's much easier to say " oh hopefully soon or someday" than explain everything. I see his side of things, but I also know how I feel, some days I feel content with only having one, other days it feels like my heart is breaking from the yearning for another.
I would never force another child into our family, if it's meant to be, it will happen one day, somehow.

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

You must be joking

Wow So I haven't wrote in like, 6 months. I kept meaning to, but well life gets busy and there have been more important things going on,we visited family in Oklahoma for Halloween, My grandpa is 91 and I want Audrey to spend as much time as we can with him. Audrey was a clown for Halloween, she was so cute! won 2nd place in a contest:) For Christmas we went to Ohio! It was a wonderful trip, Audrey's first plane ride, first snow, first ice cream, meeting horses, meeting my dads entire side of the family! It was just so great to be surrounded by my big family. Audrey will be two soon! How is that even POSSIBLE?! I'm in full party planning mode, Sesame Street theme, having her party in OK and I'm excited for her to be around all her friends. Now to come to the reason I decided to finally post again, I guess I really just needed a good place to vent, so here goes. I know I do not have to defend my husband, my choices, our marriage. I DO NOT. But I'm going to. My Husband is probably the nicest, most polite, laid back person you could ever meet. He treats me amazing, makes me laugh, he's smart, he works hard for our family, he is an awesome father and just all around an interesting and wonderful person. Four years ago, after just moving in together after dating a few short months , we had a party, mostly my friends, we were both drunk, got into our FIRST EVER fight, this was not even something that I really remember, has no significance in our relationship what so ever. One of my "friends" was there and from that moment on has hated my husband, bashing him, talking horrible about him publicly, even after I asked her to please keep her thoughts to herself. I gave her a choice, stop talking bad about him or end our friendship, she chose to end the friendship. silly right? At the time I thought, oh this will all blow over in a few days or weeks and we'll laugh about it. Oh how wrong I was. I tried, numerous times to mend the friendship, I mean how stupid is it to lose a friend over a guy, especially since I KNOW, and everyone else knew that my husband(bf at the time) was really a great guy. Here we are 4 years later, I sometimes would think of this "friend" and get sad about how things turned out. I no longer feel any guilt, any sadness over this. I feel pissed, angry, frustrated and annoyed. This "friend" was brought into a conversation via Facebook, where I and two other friends are commenting and joking about our children. Comments were made by this "friend" about Audrey and my husband, insults, about MY FAMILY. I thought, this must be some kind of joke, this person can not seriously be talking about people she has no idea about? we haven't spoke in 4 years! she met my husband ONCE and has never met Audrey, not to mention she lives on the other side of the country. She said her child(because she is currently pregnancy and apparently this makes her Mother of the year and an expert on all things children) will feel sorry for Audrey.. and her child will teach my husband how to treat a woman because his father is so awesome.. I'm sorry did you get some kind of an award for the worlds only perfect marriage and I missed it? Oh and If she has a girl, HER DAUGHTER will teach ME some self respect.. At this point I just had to laugh, because how could this NOT be some kind of stupid joke? Mostly I'm annoyed that this person must not have really ever known me at all, to think that I would stay with, have a child with and marry someone who treated me bad.. Do I have the perfect husband? no I do not, I wouldn't want a "perfect" husband, how boring would that be! Do I have the perfect marriage? no I do not. Marriage is an on going relationship, something I will work for until the day I am 6 feet under. I feel bad for ignorant people, for the one person in the entire world who can't see my husband for the wonderful person he is. I feel better getting that out, I chose not to talk back to that "friend" because really if she was still hung up on it 4 years later, there was no point in trying to make her see clearly, I have more important things to put effort into, like enjoying my husbands days off with him and our beautiful daughter, who by the way, will never need anyone's pity, she is one of the most loved and happy children you will ever meet, because she has two parents who love her and eachother more than anything else in the world.