You must be joking

Wow So I haven't wrote in like, 6 months. I kept meaning to, but well life gets busy and there have been more important things going on,we visited family in Oklahoma for Halloween, My grandpa is 91 and I want Audrey to spend as much time as we can with him. Audrey was a clown for Halloween, she was so cute! won 2nd place in a contest:) For Christmas we went to Ohio! It was a wonderful trip, Audrey's first plane ride, first snow, first ice cream, meeting horses, meeting my dads entire side of the family! It was just so great to be surrounded by my big family. Audrey will be two soon! How is that even POSSIBLE?! I'm in full party planning mode, Sesame Street theme, having her party in OK and I'm excited for her to be around all her friends. Now to come to the reason I decided to finally post again, I guess I really just needed a good place to vent, so here goes. I know I do not have to defend my husband, my choices, our marriage. I DO NOT. But I'm going to. My Husband is probably the nicest, most polite, laid back person you could ever meet. He treats me amazing, makes me laugh, he's smart, he works hard for our family, he is an awesome father and just all around an interesting and wonderful person. Four years ago, after just moving in together after dating a few short months , we had a party, mostly my friends, we were both drunk, got into our FIRST EVER fight, this was not even something that I really remember, has no significance in our relationship what so ever. One of my "friends" was there and from that moment on has hated my husband, bashing him, talking horrible about him publicly, even after I asked her to please keep her thoughts to herself. I gave her a choice, stop talking bad about him or end our friendship, she chose to end the friendship. silly right? At the time I thought, oh this will all blow over in a few days or weeks and we'll laugh about it. Oh how wrong I was. I tried, numerous times to mend the friendship, I mean how stupid is it to lose a friend over a guy, especially since I KNOW, and everyone else knew that my husband(bf at the time) was really a great guy. Here we are 4 years later, I sometimes would think of this "friend" and get sad about how things turned out. I no longer feel any guilt, any sadness over this. I feel pissed, angry, frustrated and annoyed. This "friend" was brought into a conversation via Facebook, where I and two other friends are commenting and joking about our children. Comments were made by this "friend" about Audrey and my husband, insults, about MY FAMILY. I thought, this must be some kind of joke, this person can not seriously be talking about people she has no idea about? we haven't spoke in 4 years! she met my husband ONCE and has never met Audrey, not to mention she lives on the other side of the country. She said her child(because she is currently pregnancy and apparently this makes her Mother of the year and an expert on all things children) will feel sorry for Audrey.. and her child will teach my husband how to treat a woman because his father is so awesome.. I'm sorry did you get some kind of an award for the worlds only perfect marriage and I missed it? Oh and If she has a girl, HER DAUGHTER will teach ME some self respect.. At this point I just had to laugh, because how could this NOT be some kind of stupid joke? Mostly I'm annoyed that this person must not have really ever known me at all, to think that I would stay with, have a child with and marry someone who treated me bad.. Do I have the perfect husband? no I do not, I wouldn't want a "perfect" husband, how boring would that be! Do I have the perfect marriage? no I do not. Marriage is an on going relationship, something I will work for until the day I am 6 feet under. I feel bad for ignorant people, for the one person in the entire world who can't see my husband for the wonderful person he is. I feel better getting that out, I chose not to talk back to that "friend" because really if she was still hung up on it 4 years later, there was no point in trying to make her see clearly, I have more important things to put effort into, like enjoying my husbands days off with him and our beautiful daughter, who by the way, will never need anyone's pity, she is one of the most loved and happy children you will ever meet, because she has two parents who love her and eachother more than anything else in the world.